Introduction To Our Rituals

Introduction To Our Rituals


For many, the struggle to lose weight is not a matter of willpower but a matter of emotional control. When you’re sad you eat, when you’re happy you eat, when you’re stressed you eat, because, for one reason or another, food can help alleviate those bad emotions and elevate the good ones, if only for a moment. It makes sense, food doesn’t judge you, it doesn’t insult you, it doesn’t look down on you, it doesn’t demand anything of you… Heck, you need it to sustain your life, to live and grow strong and be healthy, and the stuff we seem to lean on during emotional highs and lows taste very good! It’s a necessity.

But, at the end of the day, when you’ve given in, when you’ve tried to lift yourself up out of a depression, tried to elevate your happiness and party, tried to find something to distract you from your stress, you’re left feeling stuffed, upset, and even angry at yourself for giving in, be-cause you want to stay healthy, on track, and lose that weight.

It’s understandable and it’s not your fault. The weight loss industry has become a multi-billion dollar industry, with books, products, and programs available everywhere. But amongst all those books, few ever address the subject of emotional eating, except to tell you not to do it. Few offer strategies, techniques, and methods to help alleviate anxiety, worry, sadness, or help you to direct your happi-ness in more productive manners.


You’re often left with suggestions such as, “Find a way to keep yourself busy: “Redirect your sadness into some-thing productive other than food: and other common sense resolutions that, though they work when you’re one hundred percent focused and trying to eat better, the moment you get really overwhelmed-the moment something can shake you from that control, you’re back to doing what YOU DON’T WANT TO DO!

I understand the frustration. I’m not some skinny doctor who has never had to deal with weight loss. I still struggle with my weight to get control of my love handles. At one point, I weighed 347 pounds, much of that weight brought on through stressful eating, eating because I was sad and miserable with my life, eating because I didn’t know what I wanted from my life, eating because… well, just because I hoped it would make me feel better. It feels good not being judged, it feels good for just a moment to have something that can take your mind off your troubles, whatever they may be.

It wasn’t until I could overcome those patterns, until I could take control of my emotions better, that I could finally begin to drop the weight, and I’m happy to tell you, I’m down more than a hundred pounds, and I keep it off.

What Does It Mean To Be Mindful In Practise

What Does It Mean To Be Mindful In Practise

 What Does It Mean To Be Mindful

In the last twelve years, we’ve learned more about the brain than we’ve learned in the last three thousand years of human existence, the FMRI ma-chine has done for the study of the brain what the microscope did for the study of microbes, germs, and cells. It’s opened up an entirely new world of understanding and possibility.

FMRI ma-chine

The greatest of these understandings is that those thought practitioners, the men and women who spent their lives meditating, contemplating, and being more consciously aware of their own presence, have actually been harnessing unique and special connections in their brain.

We have now discovered that the mind and the brain are two different things for which function together, and though there is still some debate, it is often felt, and shown through the current research that the mind can shape the brain just as effectively as the brain can shape the mind.

This is to say that with enough focus one can create happiness even when depressed, with enough focus a person can change their mood, they can change their actions, they can change just about anything in their lives to live better and more fulfilling lives.

Often people think of Mindfulness in the Buddhist tradition, and though there are some great books on mindfulness from Buddhist Monastic writers and from great men like Thich Nhat Hanh and the Dali Lama, Mindfulness does not have to be a religious act of any kind.

Being mindful does not require meditation in a monastery saying “Ahmmm!” Mindfulness is not something reached just by enlightened individuals who have spent their entire lives seeking peace.

Mindfulness is a state for which we all enter and leave consistently throughout the day. The closer one is connected with their mind, the more one is connected with their life.

To be mindful is the ultimate goal that people should strive for. To be present and conscious of their choices, their decisions, their moods, attitudes, judgments, and beliefs at any moment, at any time, for which, then they are able to take the subjective, that which they feel, and put it in an objective frame.

When one does this, there is greater peace, calm, and overall serenity in their lives. They are more optimistic, more strategic and deliberate, more organized, and less likely to allow for assumptions to rule their decisions. That is what has been revealed time and time again through our growing knowledge of the brain.

When a person is more aware of what’s happening with themselves at any one moment, not stuck either in the past, or in the future, for which much of pain and grief lie, you are more tuned into your life, able to see and appreciate things at a different level. The world burns brighter and your life burns brighter as well.